Bear with me, this is going to take more than one blog entry to work through. Maybe some of what I’m writing will resonate with you.
This is a subject of endless debate, and I don’t suspect there’s any one definitive “right” answer or conclusion. If anything, it only underscores how very different everyone is when it comes time to deciphering what approach they need to take with their eating.
I don’t suppose there’s much for me to bring to this debate that hasn’t already been discussed at length, but I do think putting my own thoughts “on paper” will help me sort out where I am at the moment. So keep that in mind, that what what may be useful/truthful/applicable to me may not be so for you, and I’m not trying to suggest otherwise.
There is a part of me, that part that likes absolutes, clear-cut guidelines, definitive answers, that finds the thought of completely avoiding certain foods (or ingredients) appealing. It offers an “at least” consolation, as in, “Well I may be struggling with other foods or the amount I’m eating, but at least I’ve consistently stayed away from white sugar.” Sometimes, when you’re in a funk and it seems you’re doing nothing but stumbling, having that bottom-line consistency can keep your morale up until you’re able to collect yourself and get back to a higher-level state of eating management. I can also see the value in letting go of certain foods from one’s diet, of accepting that you will never, ever eat them again. With the brain-splitting selection of foods — be they simple/healthy, processed/not-so-bad, or outright junk — available at even the local pharmacy, never mind mega-grocery stores…..eliminating large swaths of food from even being an option can help make shopping blissfully easier, espcially considering I can be vulnerable to over-stimulation and the stress of too many choices. Like, I know myself enough to know that it’s best that I never even consider, say, Pop Tarts, to be a part of my diet. Or Three Musketeers Bars. These are foods I ate and enjoyed in excess at one time, and between the fact that they offer zero nutrition and not even enough satiety to justify their sugar and fat content, it’s best I pass them up. No issue there.
But I’m uneasy at the thought of eliminating foods that contain flour, or sugar, or wheat or some such. Being that I have such a literal mind, I would quickly take that declaration to unhealthy extremes. I couldn’t do it “halfway,” I’d have to read every label and eliminate such a huge list of foods from my repertoire, and I just don’t find this healthy. Certainly, the obvious offenders might best be avoided. I don’t remember the last time I considered cookies, cake, candy, or most breads to be a part of my daily menu choices. And I rarely eat pasta, per se, partly because it’s just not a particularly favorite food of mine, partly because I don’t find much satiety in it.
But what about my favorite soups? Many of them contain a small amount of pasta, which means both flour and wheat as an ingredient. However, they’re also loaded with vegetables and protein (usually from chicken), which is good as I sometimes struggle to include enough protein and veggies in my day’s food. And what about all those foods that have sugar as an ingredient, a main ingredient, even? I love sorbet, and found it to be a wonderful treat to incorporate into my diet when I eliminated most other sweets from my daily food plan. Sure, it contains sugar, like cookies, but unlike cookies, it’s about as far removed from the taste, texture, and “easy to eat fast and furiously” character that cookies have for me, that it makes no sense to eliminate it.
I guess I’m steering towards the notion that life doesn’t work in such absolutes for me, that there still needs to be an element of common sense even if a person chooses to adopt some concrete rules for themselves. Sure, sometimes it’s tempting, pondering the simplicity of such hard-lined boundaries. But something deep down feels that this approach is not a good one for me. I have to keep teaching/learning the art of what I’ll call “structured moderation.” The best of both worlds. The tough part probably is, how do you enforce it? There is a risk that the minute you face temptation, you can simply change the rules to suit what it is you want at that moment.
But I think therein lies the process of becoming mature. You have to be able to retain a sense of honesty and accountability, so that when you’re facing such moments, you can still abide by your current rules/guidelines, and not fall into the trap of “rewriting” them right there and then. If you think you need to make a change, clearly the best measure is to have the presence of mind to stick to the plan at that moment, then visit the possibility of modifications later, at a time when you’re lucid and more objective.
More later!
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